Promoting honesty, self-comfort, freedom, doing what you really want to do, and being with/loving who you really want to be with and love has got to take up the largest focus. There are plenty of homosexuals who embrace everything but “gay”, plenty of non homosexuals who do embrace “gay”, plenty of non heterosexuals who will spend their whole lives being seen as “straight”, some people who haven’t been inherently “bi” in many years still claiming that identity, and some who will sexually engage with people for reasons that don’t have anything to do with their orientation. That makes all this “lgbtq” stuff seem almost entirely political and sociological not personal, which is partly why some people resent it. We can’t keep focusing almost entirely on this or that “pride” or what someone wants to call themselves. Not everyone or even most experience genuine fluidity. It’s just not practical nor a genuine reflection of self. Most don’t want to walk around talking about “bi pride” if they haven’t been inherently bi in over a decade and don’t live a bi lifestyle. And there are some people who become more bi as they age. And yeah, there are people who are inherently bisexual and become fully homosexual or heterosexual as they age. So, “fluid” doesn’t have to remove you from everything else. Hell, there are people who have little issue with being referred to as gay, bi, queer and fluid. There are quite a few people who embrace both “bi” and “sexually fluid”. Sexual fluidity just means some type of fluctuation in attractions, arousal, desires and/or sexual enjoyment. All we should really be promoting is honesty, self-comfort, doing what you truly want to do, being with who you really want to be with, and living in your love. Ultimately, people are just too individual to get caught up in what everybody else wants to or doesn’t want to call themselves. It should be accepted just as inherent, steady heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality should be accepted. Do some people use “fluidity” as a way to shame or to manipulate or to not adhere to identity? Yes. These are realities that people need to start accepting. And where people are on the romantic, sexual, affection, emotional, relationship spectrum can change through time. Some do experience a lessening or increasing or general fluctuation of attractions, desires, passions, sexual enjoyment, etc. People just used to equate it to confusions or phases. The thing is I’ve experienced fluidity myself. And there will always be things that only that person knows about themselves and only that person can suss out for themselves. No matter how you look at identity, sex, sexuality, orientation and the spectrum, there will always be layers of ambiguity and individualism and personal motivations. That doesn’t even include the romantic, emotional, relationship side of things. While the sexual part of orientation alone involves potential fluidity depending on the person but also involves different types and different rates of attractions, passions, enjoyment, comfort and fulfillment.
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Just because you avoid having a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you don’t have romantic, affection, relationship passions, affections and preferences towards that person. And just because you have a relationship with someone doesn’t mean that there’s relationship comfort/contentment and romantic desires and fulfillment. While there’s people who don’t sexually engage with genders they do have attractions to. There are people who sexually engage with genders that they have no attractions to. I am somewhat okay with viewing gay/straight/bi/etc. While telling a guy he has to embrace “bi” only because he has enjoyed getting head from a guy is not helpful and would probably do the guy harm in the long run. Alternative identities and alternative ways of looking at sexuality, identity and orientation is needed. Besides, do we really need more people embracing “bi pride” simply because they feel like they have to or because they don’t feel like there’s any alternatives? And do we really need more “proudly bi” guys who have overall preferences towards a specific person and relationship ambitions towards a specific person? Greater understanding experimentation, fluidity and the romantic, sexual, affection, emotional, relationship spectrum is needed. I’m just not here for forcing identities on people. And how many gay-identifying men have gotten women pregnant?
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And a guy can use his imagination while sexually engaging with someone that he doesn’t find attractive. I suppose if you’re someone who is sexually sensitive and easily aroused almost any amount of touching can get you there.